HW . 58

I talked to 3 different people one person my age who hasn’t experienced prom yet, one who’s a little older and has experienced prom and the oldest person and their views on prom.  

One person I talked to has been to a prom already, they just explained everything that the movies show. They said “everyone’s grinding even when the teachers are there and tell you to stop and then that one person who cant handle their alcohol or have to much and throws up which ruins the whole mood”.  Then everyone going to a after party smoking, drinking & then the hooking up and,”. Prom is treated as just another party for some and for others its really an experience that they don’t want to ruin with alcohol and drugs and feel that it is a “rite of passage”.

The next person I talked to is 17 in 11th grade and they’re excited for prom they feel that its something that everyone should experience when growing up. They also feel that everyone should go to their prom because it might be the last time that you ever see any of those people again. This person is all for the typical prom and having fun but the things like prom queen & king and voting are unnecessary because “your supposed to be having fun at prom not worrying about if you get voted to be something that’s not going to benefit you anyway”. They also mentioned that they might drink at prom but not enough to not be able to remember the night but when I asked them why they were going to drink they didn’t give an answer. I asked about their views on other peoples decisions on prom like wearing gowns, wearing expensive jewelry, the after party.  They feel that a long gown is too much and to dressy and all the jewelry “its likes your playing pretend wedding by doing all of those things”. Basically they want to go to prom and enjoy it but feel that some of the prom aspects are unnecessary.

The last person I talked to was my dad and he go to prom because he was to shy and nervous to ask someone , which I found funny because the worst they could do is say no. He actually still wishes that he had gone to his prom and asked the girl he wanted to be his date. Even though my dad hasn’t been to prom he did give me some advice I guess from seeing what other teens or just remembering how he acted when he was younger. “I know you’re going to be drinking, just make sure your mother doesn’t find out & that you don’t get so fucked up that you can’t find your way home. Don’t get in a cab if you don’t know your way home, one of my friends actually had a card that had their address on it for reassurance” Im glad that my dad actually understands because my mom would never say something like this to me. But instead of telling me not to do this or that he actually talked to me and were able to come to a understanding. Which I think is good because the reason I think teens probably don’t make it home or get kidnapped or any of the other things you hear happens on prom night because they get so drunk & don’t know what to do or get so drunk on purpose because their parents told them not to. So instead of telling kids what to do and not to do they should help them to understand ways they should go about doing what there going to do because telling someone what to do will only go so far.